BE an Adult – LISTEN to Your Inner Child!

Your Inner Child is real. Your inner child is the doorway to perceiving your reality. This archetype is the eternal part of you that allows you to fully experience joy, adventure, wonder and playfulness with total innocence. Without any regret about past mistakes and without any worry about future – the inner child knows how to live in the here and now.

We were all children once and if that child was hurt or traumatized (mentally, emotionally or physically), felt rejected, felt ignored, felt unheard, felt small, felt misunderstood or felt lonely know that as an adult you would still have unresolved issues and belief systems formed around your experiences as a child. Your relationship with your parents, your spouse or partner, your job, money, wealth, love, life, reality, etc. would all be based on how you as a child perceived it all and the beliefs you adopted during your formative years.

In his essay on “The Psychology of the Child Archetype” Carl Jung says that the image of the child “represents the strongest, the most ineluctable urge in every being, namely the urge to realize itself.” The vital energy of this archetype needs expression and cannot be ignored without consequences.

As adults, in this ever expanding age of complexities, we are told to “grow up” and stop being “child-ish” or that playfulness makes you “immature”. So, we as adults suppress or even totally shut off that part of us that wants to explore this world innocently. Suppressing your inner child only causes more discomfort, anger, irritation and irrational behavior on multiple levels. The energies of an inner child needs to be released.

True adulthood would be living your everyday lives listening, nurturing, healing, acknowledging and accepting that part of you that needs to express its truest self. If you take full responsibility of this child and you “parent” this child with love, support, kindness, and being available ,the energies would flow with ease through very creative avenues.

As Jacqueline Wright Ed. D, mentioned in her article “Answering The Call of the Inner Child”

The call from our inner child often comes to remind us that our adult self has become too one-sided, too restrictive or too willfully progressive and is in danger of being severed from the roots of our being. By lifting us up out of old restricting structures and collective definitions of who we're supposed to be, it restores a playfulness and an expectancy of the wonder of tomorrow, regardless of our age. This helps to balance the seriousness of our adult lives and can awaken a new relationship with life. In this way, it represents the urge toward self realization and anticipates the synthesis of opposites and the attainment of wholeness

So, how do you connect to your inner child? First and foremost, acknowledge the existence of your inner child. With awareness itself a lot can change in your thinking. Second, listen and be patient with your inner child. The moments you can do this is when you suddenly remember a childhood memory that is not the easiest to talk about or even think about .The fact that you still have that memory, means a part of you is still ‘stuck’ in that space and time. So, go back to that memory and talk to that child – understand what it wants you to know, understand its fears and ask it what is it learning from this experience? That in itself will give you a clue about your patterns and belief systems running today – you as an adult. Third, after listening to your inner child – forgive and let him/her know they are truly forgiven for being a child. There would be energies of latent guilt or shame and it is important to let the child know “I’m here for you”, “it’s okay”, “ I forgive you”, “ you are safe now”, “ you are never alone”. BE the adult. Lastly, watch the child transform, see the energies leave and heal your inner child. Witness a shift in the situation, in your belief systems, witness a smile on the child’s face and feel all of these changes taking place in your body – here and now. And know in that moment, you saved yourself.

To help your inner child thrive you can do so many things, you can sing, dance, paint, color, bake, read, play an instrument, learn a new language – BE CREATIVE (even if you think you aren’t). Coming up with the title “ BE an adult – LISTEN to your inner child” itself excited me - I normally take ages to come up with anything creative. But, once I allow my so called ‘silly’ ideas to flow, the right one always comes along. I learn to have fun with it. And that’s the key. Have fun (unconditionally) without any expectation of what this will bring into your life. Just do it because it makes you happy – unleash your inner child. Laugh and play!

Namaste

Monisha

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